Letting Go of Bad Relationships

LETTING GO of BAD RELATIONSHIPS

Over the centuries people have been having relationships and too often finding themselves in a position where letting go of the relationship was the only option. The art of doing this has yet to become easier. People always say,” just let it go,” but it is never as simple as that. Although the other party may not want to be with you, the idea of being rejected and left alone is never an acceptable feeling. We tend to hold on even if the relationship is not good for us because it is comfortable; rationalizing the bad behavior of others towards us becomes a day to day exercise because we do not value ourselves as we hold on to a nonproductive relationship.

One of the first steps in getting out of a relationship is to decide that you are willing to go through the pain. We often stay in situations because we do not want to feel the pain of pulling away. We enjoy continuity, stability and never seem to understand the effect of change. It is so difficult to pull away and do something new. Breaking away is equitable to having a serious part of you snatched away. You are not prepared to let go. Although you may subconsciously know the signs are there. You are still not ready to acknowledge that the relationship is over. So there you are with that horrible feeling of painful shock and surprise.

Sometimes we want things so badly we are unwilling to see what is really going on. We do not care that it is not good for us. The unhappy situation is made worse when we become so accustomed to being treated badly we don’t know the difference. Once we start letting go of a relationship we start to realize that we deserve better and we begin to understand that we do not want to make the other party unhappy by holding on.

Letting go of a relationship requires will power and a great deal of care for you. You must ask yourself if you are worthy of love or do you want to treat yourself badly and remain in a relationship where you are not getting all of the love and care that you deserve. It is very easy to allow yourself to accept anything, to feel you are not a valuable part of a relationship. If we are uncaring toward ourselves it is very easy for others to treat us with callous behavior.

No one walks out of a relationship without bruises. Some just carry more scars than others, but once we are out of the relationship we realize that we are not as broken as we thought we would be. We must understand that we have programmed ourselves into staying in a relationship not at all good for us. This is not a situation that developed overnight. After letting go of the relationship, if we will only allow ourselves to look around we will find we can slowly put together the pieces of our lives, one step at a time.

When we take good care of ourselves we take good care of others that come in contact with us. If we are rested we are kinder and more tolerant of the short comings of others. Where you nice to yourself today? Did you do your nails, did you soak your feet, and did you buy yourself a cup of coffee? What did you do nice for yourself today.

Being nice to yourself is not about being selfish it is about being a better you. When there are better YOU’S around that means the world has just that many more chances of being an OK place to live in. It means there are that many more OK kids to grow up in our neighborhoods. So ladies you must be very good to yourselves and demand that the people you come in contact with are good to you too, accepts nothing less.

You are worthy of kindness and love. You are worthy of a chance to be the best you can be. Anyone or anything telling you something different is not talking to you. Do not allow people who do not love themselves to infect you with their self destructive behavior. Remember they are keeping themselves afloat by standing on your shoulders.